Get out of validation
Posted an image on Instagram…
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5 mins later “2 people liked your post”
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15 mins later “8 people liked your post”
16 mins later… trying to refresh, maybe internet is slow
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30 mins later “9 people liked your post”
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1 hr 43 mins later “9 people liked your post”
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7 hr 21 mins later “9 people liked your post”
10 hr later New notification “Gmail — Apple releases new iPad”
If this story seems familiar and you find yourself unintentionally in this loop of likes, you are not the only one. This is not the point of this thought though, but instead, it’s about the intentions of looking for validation for the work we are doing. This was just a small example which shows our behavior of looking for validation and we behave this way in a lot of other places ranging from our work to our relationships.
Just pause for a moment and focus on yourself and try to answer “who am I?”. Do you want other people’s thinking about you to define your self-worth? If you are somehow letting this happen, you will have to do a lot of things to make it right because no one knows you the way you know yourself. Everyone has their own opinions and beliefs, a different background, a different history. You might think that you know how someone thinks about you, but you will always be wrong. The way they cannot know everything about you, similarly, you cannot know everything about them and that is what makes each one of us different from one another.
You are important to the world because there is no other you!
Don’t worry about the feedback, feedback can improve or change your path, but it can never change your goal. Always remember, no matter how many people’s goal look similar to the one you have, everyone looks at it differently and that is what makes your goal unique. If you believe you can’t, it doesn’t mean you gave up, it just means you have not reached your full potential. So forget about everything else and work on yourself. You are the best tool you have, you don’t need anything, you don’t need a push from anyone, you don’t need anybody’s validation, just get out there and start with what you want to do.
